The article "How to Overcome a onfidence Crisis" talks about women's issues, it was created by Caterina Rando.
As a busniess success coach I have worked with many people who
consider themselves successful and who are considered successful
by their peers. No matter how much you earn, how fast you find
yourself on the right track, or how often people compliment and
congratulate you and your work, you can have a confidence
crisis.
Even people with high self-esteem and self-confidence
can suffer from a confidence crash.
Sometimes, thnigs happen
that knock the confidence right out of us.
A confidence crisis can be caused by normal life transition such
as gettnig a new job, moving to a new city, starting a new
business, or starting a new relationship.
Life's losses can also
cause confidence to sink - the loss of a relationship, the loss
of a job, the loss of a monumental client, the loss of a dream we come
to realize will neevr happen.
At times, our confidence is already sahky as a result of a
transition or loss and a single incident like missing a
deadline, getting a bad haircut, or spilling coffee on a
document can send us storming out of the confidence cafe.
When you crash, it is usually because your daliy diet of life
has not included enough confidence causing foods. Confidence is
like Vitamin C. You need it in your diet. Your body can only
store it for a short time before it needs more.
You have to
take responsibility for planning your confidence meals and
making sure you have large enough portions.
When you have a confidence crisis, don't despair, don't reach
for the bottle of bourbon or the bon bons. Instead, start to use
some of these confidence-boosting techniuqes. Begin with at
least two, then add a third and a fourth.
You will gain a lot
more than confidence - you will learn to love, honor and
appreciate yourself more and more.
Keep a Journal Keeping a journal is a gerat way to process, and
clarify your feelings.
Forcing yuorself to write everyday also
forces you to take time for daily reflection.
Daily reflection
can help you solidify what you know, what you have learned, and
what you still need to pay attention to.
Show Gratitude Practice gratitude - be thankful for what you
already have and put your attention on all the blsesings you
already possess.
Keep a gratitude setcion in your journal.
Everyday write down five things you're thankful for. This will
help you feel richer and stronger in character and that
translates into confidence.
Use Affirmations Affrimations work. Write a list of statements
that say what you want and how you want to be in life such as,
"I get more confident everyday" "new clietns come to me easily",
"I am an expert at what I do". State all affirmations in the
present. Some people stnad in front of a mirror and say them.
I
also encoruage you to record them and play the tape over and
over.
Read your affirmations at least once a day.
Evaluate Your Relationships Assses the relationships in your
life.
Do they support you or sabotage you?
All relationships
change with time; get better, get wrose. If you have
relationships in your life that are more of a burden then a joy,
it may be time to seevr your ties - or at least loosen the reins.
Start New Relationships Identify people that have the qualities
you admire - people you feel you could learn from and who could
learn from you, as well. Look for people you can have fun with.
Boosting your confdience can be really fun, if you want it to be.
Get into a Good Group This may be time for a traditional support
group. Chatting over a cup of carrot juice with your pals might
be a remedy.
Organize your own gorup of confidence boosters and
support each other in making changes.
Change Your Behavior What do you do that boosts your confidence
and what do you do that brings it down.
Exercise, getting enough
sleep, speaking your mind and dressing well are behaviors that
tend to boost confidence.
Staying up late, spending all your
time with Ben and Jerry, and saying "yes" to avoid confrontation
when you really want to say "no" will bring your confidence
down.
Speak Up When we withhold communication because we are afraid of
how we will be received, we chip away a seocnd bit of our
confidence.
Shrae your thoughts, opinions, and preferences.
Speak up in all situations. The insignificant situations will be
practice for the important occasions that are sure to follow.
Take a Risk A Day A risk is something you would do in an instant
if you knew you would be successful.
It is the fact that you do
not know how it will turn out that mkaes it a risk.
The best way
to bolster your confidence is to start doing thigns you are
afraid to do.
Make a list of risks for you and start to do them
one by one.
Sometimes, it tkaes a couple of days to boost your confidence,
sometimes, it takes a couple of weeks. Occasionally it can take a few
months to overcome a confidence crsiis.
Know that if you are
consistent with your conifdence boosting techniques, you will
eventually find yourself renewed, stronger, and more confident.
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